Let’s slowly breakdown this problem one bit at a time.

How to approach girls with courage.

I can’t lie. It’s not easy for a lot of guys when it comes to talking to girls. If you find it easy when it comes to talking with girls, then you are lucky. Talking with girls holds a lot of guys back from becoming successful with a woman.

Ask yourself, what is holding you back from approaching a girl. Do you think she will not find you attractive enough? Do you think she will find you boring? The problem is there, you just have to ask yourself what it is, and improve upon it.

If you start working out and dressing better, then you won’t feel like you attractiveness is holding you back anymore, giving you the confidence you need. Talking with strangers can build the confidence you need when it comes to approaching a girl.

Where to find the girls and approach them.

Finding girls can be rather difficult for guys. Rather funny how that works, seeing as 50% of the earth’s population is with women. Take my word, women are everywhere. Finding them won’t be difficult, seeing as they need to buy groceries just like you, eat like you, go to work, etc.

Find a good place that makes you comfortable when approaching girls. Have something in common with the girl, at a place, and strike a conversation. The location of where you approach a girl can make a big difference.

If you join a group or a hobby club, it should be even easier to find a great reason to approach a girl. You’ll know what to say or ask when you are in common ground.

Actually approaching girls.

you feeling ready? You see here standing over there. What are you going to do next?

You need to have something to say. Find a good excuse to go up and talk to her Perhaps she wearing something nice, or doing something interesting that will create the conversation starter you need.

If you can’t figure anything out, then you aren’t thinking hard enough. Having a few good PUA openers memorized will bail you out if you see nothing to strike up a conversation with her.

If your confidence level is high and you know exactly what you want to tell the girl, then there is no reason not to approach to girl. Start talking to her and see if this is someone you would want to get to know better. Ask her for her phone number, if you think she’s your type.

That’s what you need to do to approach girls. Get over the approach anxiety and you will not have any trouble talking to girls. Jump on the opportunity. Meeting new people (especially attractive women) can be one of the most exciting things out there. That person you are talking to could be your next girlfriend.

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Women in relationships want to be reminded that they’re in a relationship. They want to feel loved all the time, and they want their men to talk with them. When this need isn’t satisfied, they’ll claim that an emotional distance has grown and that the relationship is suffering as a result. What do women want? It’s a question that’s been asked for centuries, and whatever responses have been given always seem to fall short. In a relationship, a woman wants to have her sense of worth reinforced by her man. If, at the end of the day, she doesn’t feel that sense of worth, she’ll blame her man no matter what he’s really done. Without the emotional intimacy, the relationship’s on rocky ground, and a woman is often likely to step out in search of a new man.

The second reason a woman will cheat on her man is the feeling of neglect. This is related to the concept of emotional distance, but it’s not identical. Neglect is more behavioral in nature – for example, if a woman “wants her space” and her man takes her literally and leaves her alone, she may think he’s neglecting her because he no longer cares for her. It’s critical that men understand that a woman really does need her own space, so that she can grow as an individual and thus contribute more to the relationship, but if he leaves her alone too much, she’ll cry “neglect!” and start looking for his replacement.

Self-esteem isn’t just something we want to instill in our children – we all need it. Women in a relationship need to have their self-esteem reinforced by their men. The conclusion here is plain – if a man won’t say and do the things necessary to bolster his woman’s self-esteem, she’s going to find someone who will, even if by all criteria her man’s actions were sufficient. From her perspective, another man will say and do the things necessary to boost her self-esteem. While most men understand a woman’s need for self-esteem and try to reinforce it, if a woman feels she’s not getting enough attention in this area, chances are good she’s going to cheat.

Finally, a woman is likely to cheat on her man if she simply feels bored and needs a change of scene. The woman who does this is particularly immature, because she needs the constant sense of being in a relationship as opposed to being on her own, strong, independent and in charge of her own life. A woman who stays in a relationship for the emotional (and financial) security, rather than honestly ending it and establishing herself as a single woman on her own, isn’t going to solve any problems by darting from one relationship to another.

Regardless of the reason a woman gives for cheating on her man, the awkward truth is that they probably weren’t suited to each other. True love requires honesty and communication, and a woman who cheats on her man shatters any trust there may have been. Any woman who comes to the conclusion that she’s not getting what she needs from you, and that she’s thus justified in cheating on you, doesn’t deserve to be with you in the first place.

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But more often than not, her eyes wander to her cell phone and then meander to the people behind him.

In fact, just about everything in her environment seems to enthrall her except for him, causing a billion and one insecurities to snake into his mind, such as…

1). She must think I am ugly as sin.

2). Does she find me as boring as Velveeta cheese?

3). Do I have the personality of a houseplant?

4). Did I forget to wear deodorant?

5). Is my ego going to be an obituary in tomorrow’s paper?

And if he’s bitter, he might think: She’s like a warm toilet seat – some guy was there before me, another will be there when I get up.

Like a hard working mule, he takes one last crack at making conversation.

But, alas, she stings him with, “It was nice meeting you but I have to go.”

In retrospect, he may think: Damn! That fall-asleep boring conversation piece took the pickup to a crippling halt. It was like the one unlucky drink that shoves a wavering alcoholic off the wagon. I should have never used it.

Most of us have experienced something along these lines.

Many of us have thought: If I only had more interesting things to say, do, or show women, my outcome with them would be completely different.

Although there may be a speck of truth here, most great orators, politicians, and salesmen will tell you, “The content of what you say is far less important than how you say it.”

I’ve seen comedians put an audience in stitches one night yet bomb the next. While the standup routine they used was exactly the same on both nights, their delivery was completely different.

For this reason…

You won’t learn any interesting conversation pieces, cute lines, or fall-on-the-floor-laughing jokes in this article.

Instead…

I’m going to teach you a communication secret that captivates women.

But before I go on, I want you to make me a promise (and, as you’ll see in a few minutes, this promise is for your own good)…

No matter how boring you think you are (even if you think you’re more boring than a 90 year old woman living in a nursing home), I want you to promise me that you won’t change the content of what you say to women for one week.

Here’s why…

I want you to see how adding just this simple secret to what you currently do and say when interacting with women can dramatically increase your success.

In school, you’re taught to finish a thought or idea before moving onto the next. Great advice if you want to plunge women into a narcoleptic stupor.

But if you want women to hang onto your every word, you need to break this crippling habit and start using nested loops.

A nested or open loop is when you start an idea, thought, or story, and instead of finishing it, you move onto something else. In other words, you keep the loop open.

Whenever the human mind is presented with an open loop – unfinished idea, thought, or story – it seeks closure.

Open loops are a form of what I call “tension loops” because they create unresolved emotional tension in a woman.

Even if a woman finds you as interesting and attractive as a sewer rat, the open loop unconsciously compel her to hang onto every word that pours out of your lips and emotionally drives her to see you as a valuable Prize.

Because she seeks resolution to the tension you’ve sparked in her mind and knows that you can release the tension, she perceives you as having value and heeds close attention to everything you say.

Imagine a slovenly bum and a high maintenance babe crossing paths. The bum makes a tragic try at conversation with her by saying, “Hello. My name is Jack and I am homeless. Let me tell you about how I became homeless.”

Chances are, she’d have no interest and scurry off because she finds him aesthetically repulsive, possibly scary, and of little value.

But if he fired an open loop at her, such as, “You know what they say about women with green eyes?” he would probably spark unresolved tension in her body. She’d feel a yen for emotional closure. Closure only he has the power to bring her.

And bada bing, bada boom…

This vagabond she normally would never give the time of day to piques her interest and has value (or Prizability) in her eyes.

Furthermore, open loops can build sexual arousal…

When you spark emotional tension within the context of flirting with a woman it becomes sexualized in her body.

But there’s a facet of open loops I haven’t mentioned yet…

It’s called the “Zeigarnik effect.”

One of the early contributors to Gestalt psychology Bluma Zeigarnik noticed that waiters remember orders up until they serve the food. Then they forget. This led to the discovery that the mind retains the most information when a loop is open.

How does this help you? A woman will probably remember everything you tell her between opening up a loop and closing it.

I want to share with you a powerful application of open loops I learned from watching politicians…

Oftentimes, when politicians are asked a question, they skirt around it for several minutes, talking about almost irrelevant topics, before directly addressing it. This keeps the listener in suspense.

How can we apply this to seduction and attraction?

Here’s an example…

When most men meet a woman they utter their name and then shake the woman’s hand. Usually that’s it. The interaction is over.

An hour – or even a few minutes – later she probably won’t remember his name or anything about him.

Instead, when a woman asks me my name I use an open loop.

I may say,

“When I was a kid my mom told me that she and my dad originally named me Arete, which means all the qualities that make up someone with good character.

And I said, ‘Wow, mom… that’s awesome! Why didn’t you keep the name?’

And she said, ‘Well honey, you’re lucky we didn’t name you Arete because it’s the name of a goddess from Greek mythology.

But we didn’t really give a crap about you having a female name.

The real reason we didn’t name you Arete was that our dog was named Arete – we really loved the name.

And on the day you were born our dog was hit by a car. When we looked at you, we didn’t want you to remind us of the dog. So we named you Josh instead.’”

In lieu of giving her the instant gratification of learning my name I’m using an open loop. This builds unresolved tension inside her body.

Her unconscious mind seeks to bring closure to this loop, inciting her to hang on to my every word.

Had I just told her my name from the get go, she might have judged, “This average looking guy probably lives a boring life,” and then moved onto another man.

But by using an open loop, I had an opportunity to demonstrate that I come from cultured people, have a sense of humor, tell great stories, and possess value (or Prizability).

Plus, due to the Zeigarnik effect, she will remember that I was the guy almost named Arete.

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Next, he went up to talk to her and within the first thirty seconds of conversation the poor bastard went belly up as she hammered him to jelly.

He scurried off with the imperative of a gazelle that knows it’s minutes away from becoming a lion’s dinner.

Maybe you’ve been there before? I know I have. I used to be so scared to pick up women that I’d imagine them pointing out all of my physical flaws. How cool is that – I’d reject myself before she got a chance to reject me.

If you don’t know how to pick up women, then doing so will be more difficult than a blind man trying to find a needle in a haystack.

Realize this: We approach women in the wake of their cuteness – and they know it. Without them uttering a single word, they hook us in.

Half the time, even if you find them as sexy as a hemorrhoid , they’ll still think you’re trying to pick up on them.

But this, my friend, is about to change…

Seeing most men pick up a woman is more embarrassing than stooling oneself in public. Think of the woman as a pro fisherman with tasty bait and the man as an unlucky fish who’s minutes away from being flayed, sauteed, and eaten for dinner.

Even if he puts up a fight, it’s game over – she already hooked him (although, if she’s physically attracted to him, there’s a glimmer of hope).

Like other men, I’m also a fish – but a Parana jacked up on steroids. The moment they think they’ve hooked me in, I cast my pole and tempt them with irresistible bait.

They chomp down and – hot diggity – I’ve got them on my hook and I’m reeling them in.

Let me give you an example. If I’m at a nightclub, I may stand in a crowed area – maybe near the bar or ladies restroom. As a woman walks by I’ll stick out my elbow making it inevitable that she’ll bump into it.

Next, I’ll complain, “Ow… you hurt me.”

Almost always , the woman will put her paw on my shoulder and say, “Oh my… I’m so sorry.”

I’ll usually shoot back with, “You can touch me but…only if you tell me an interesting story or a funny joke.”

This not only hooks the woman into an interaction with you but also builds sexual tension.

Once most guys find a woman attractive – usually within the first few seconds of meeting her – they start thinking of ways to get her approval, win her over, and prove themselves to her.

In plain English, she’s hooked them in. Anything they do to win her over, reels them even closer.

In the example I gave you, I did the opposite: Instead of trying to impress her, I made her prove herself to me.

In every male/female interaction only one person can be the Prize at a given time. Two people can’t simultaneously chase each other.

You need to put yourself in the role of the Prize and the woman in role of the suitor working to win you over.

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Attractive women rarely – if ever – hit the town by themselves. They’re almost always with their friends.

You may successfully approach the woman, but if you don’t know how to deal with her friends, they’ll snatch her away from you and whisk her off into the dark night, never to be seen again.

Here’s a simple way to infiltrate her social circle…

Ask the group of women for their opinion on something.

If you do this correctly you will engage the whole group in conversation and become part of her social circle. Here is a simple example authored by Neil Strauss

Ask the whole group, “Do you think men or women lie more?”

This will get everyone yapping.

Then ask, “Do you think men or women are more likely to cheat on their partners?”

The men from her social circle will argue, “Women.” The women will argue, “Men.”

This sparks a heated debate amongst the group. And guess what, my friend?

You become the ringleader amongst her friends. So you have the power to take the conversation with them in any direction you choose.

Now you can hit on the girl and her friends won’t care. That’s because they see you as part of her social circle.

Another important point: your energy level needs to be slightly higher than the group. Otherwise, you’ll bring down their energy level and they’ll get bored silly.

Likewise, if your energy level is too high, you’ll jar them.

Either way, they’ll ask you to leave.

Here’s your homework: Come up with five interesting questions you can ask groups of people. Think of them as your conversational gambits.

The next time you’re at a nightclub and see a woman you want to meet, infiltrate her social circle with one of these gambits. I think you’ll be surprised how well it works.

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You’re attracted to a girl.

But there’s a problem…

She feels no attraction for you.

Can you change how she feels?

Many experts will tell you that dating is a numbers game – if a woman isn’t attracted, cut your losses and move onto another girl.

Refrain from doing this. You’re stifling your chances with her.

Regardless of being her physical type, you can use a few Jedi mind tricks to compel her to feel attraction for you.

Today I’m going to teach you one of them. It comes from the dating coach Swinggcat and is called a “Tension Loop”

A Tension Loop is when you do something to create unresolved emotional tension inside a woman, increase it, release it by bringing closure to it, and then spark it all over again. This will keep her feeling the emotion of wanting and reaching and chasing for more of you.

Soap opera writers use Tension Loops to keep women enraptured in their fictitious dramas for months – sometimes years! The structure is always the same. The soap starts off with some form of conflict or drama, sparking unresolved emotional tension. Emotional tension increases up until the point of the climax. The tension, then, is released by bringing some resolution to the conflict or drama. And, finally, the show ends by sparking the tension all over again, compelling women to tune in for next week’s show.

Within the context of dating and flirting, this tension becomes sexualized.

One of Swinggcat’s favorite Tension Loops is called “Push-Pull.”

Push-Pull is whenever you emotionally Push a girl away from you and then emotionally Pull her back in.

Each Push sparks emotional tension and each Pull releases it.

Let’s look at an example…

Say to a girl, “You have the most beautiful smile I’ve seen tonight.”

She will say, “Thanks.”

Then say, “Actually you have the fourth best smile I’ve seen tonight. I’m gonna call you number four.”

She’ll demand, “But I wanna be number one.”

Respond with, “For being feisty I’m promoting you to number three.”

She may complain, “But I want to be number one.”

Caution, “If you keep complaining I’m demoting you back down to number four.

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Maybe her patronizing words fret a hole deep into your heart.

Perhaps she spilled your drink. But neither apologized nor offered to buy you another one.

Maybe she insulted one of your friends.

Or maybe it’s the buildup of little but disrespectful things she’s done through the course of the evening.

Did you just stand there like dumb dear in headlights?

Did you try even harder to win her over?

Did you just cut your losses and walk away?

Alas, these responses do nothing to trigger attract and demand the respect you deserve.

I’m about to disclose a secret technology for mutating a girl’s bratty behavior into attraction.

Before I reveal this secret to you, I want to delve into a little male-female psychology.

According to the dating coach Swinggcat, every male-female interaction has a Meta-Frame – an underlying meaning – that defines one person as the Prize and the other as the suitor trying to win the Prize over.

More often than not, attractive girls will try to set a Meta-Frame that defines them as the Prize and you as the chaser.

Is there anything wrong with letting a woman be the Prize?

Good question. I thought you’d never ask.

Once you let them control the meta-frame, they cease feeling any attraction for you.

One amongst a myriad of ways women attempt to control the Meta-Frame is disrespecting a man.

Swinggcat introduced me to a secret method for mutating a woman’s bratty attitude into attraction.

When a woman says or does something rude, demand, “Put out your hand.”

Then lightly slap her hand and say, “Bad girl, but if you’re good, you get a spanking.”

This puts you back in control of the Meta-Frame, making you the Prize she wants to win over. But more importantly, it turns being spanked by you from a punishment into a reward she has to earn.

Legions of men think that only good looking guys can attract women. That is only true if you have no game. However, if you possess the skill to attract women, you can write your own destiny with the opposite sex. If you’d like to learn how to attract women, I highly recommend you check out the dating expert Swinggcat.